Losing Face
As I left the convenience store there was a woman behind me carrying a large pile of snacks and drinks. Being the nice person that I am, I held the door for her.
She stopped partway through and gave me what I can only describe as “A look.”
“What do you think you’re doing?” she demanded.
“Um, what?” I replied, as a master of the retort, as my brain scrambled to figure out why this lady was suddenly angry with me.
“What are you doing? I don’t need your sexist condensation!”
Ooooooh! That’s why she’s mad.
“I don’t think holding a door is sexist.”
“Well it is! I don’t need a man to hold the door for me!”
“I’m not holding it because you’re a woman. I’m holding it because your arms are full.”
“I DON’T NEED A MAN TO HOLD THE DOOR FOR ME!”
“Have it your way.”
I considered telling her to move, but I’m sure she didn’t need a man to tell her what happens when you stand in a rapidly closing heavy glass door with no way to use your hands.
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May 9th, 2012 at 7:59 am
LOL! Lovely.
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May 9th, 2012 at 8:03 am
You have just described the difference between a feminazi and a feminist. The feminist appreciates someone being polite and kind regardless of their gender. The feminazi takes every opportunity to berate men.
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May 9th, 2012 at 8:39 am
The other reply is of course; “You’re a woman?!”.
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May 9th, 2012 at 11:53 am
Oh that’s what I’ve been doing wrong all these years, I haven’t been asking for ID to check gender when I hold open the door for the person behind me!
Last year, I was leaving the mall, the senior’s bus was starting to load. A gentleman who wasn’t too steady on his pins insisted on holding the door open for me. He said ‘My father said you always hold the door open for a lady,’
I winked and said ‘How do you know I’m a lady?’
He grinned and said ‘Well, if you ain’t, holding the door for you would be a great way to get to know you to find out!’
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SKD reply on May 9th, 2012 4:33 pm:
That is my kind of old man.
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May 10th, 2012 at 9:29 am
Stupid feminazi’s ruined it for the rest of us. There was a time when if a group of young men saw a woman trying to unload her car with a three year old, a two week old baby (screaming) and a trunk full of groceries, they would offer to help. Now they just stand there like a bunch of idiots.
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May 10th, 2012 at 10:57 am
I have a shirt that says “TOO BAD IGNORANCE ISN’T PAINFUL” This was definitely a “learning” experience. At least I hope it was.
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May 10th, 2012 at 9:34 pm
Wait, did she actually use the word “condensation”, as opposed to “condescension”? Did she think you were sweaty?
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May 11th, 2012 at 9:41 am
What. A. Moron.
Sadly, I doubt if she learned a damn thing from the experience. That kind of mindset never does.
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May 11th, 2012 at 12:08 pm
So the change of vapour from a gas to a liquid is sexist now?
If that’s true then my water bottles have been insulting me for years now.
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May 15th, 2012 at 4:42 pm
Wow. I had no idea that holding the door for someone who has their hands full is sexist. Here I always thought it was polite. I fully apologize to every woman I have ever subjugated with this sexist expression of “condensation”, and hope that they will forgive me. Ugh. Some people can be truly too stupid for words. Skippy, I’d be willing to bet that the door closing on her was further proof in her mind that you’re a sexist pig. Really can’t win with some people.
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Cheryl reply on August 3rd, 2012 10:13 pm:
Please, by all means, should we ever meet, you have my permission to subjugate me and condescend in a sexist manner by holding the door, and I promise to mistake it for politeness and say, “Thank you”. Because I’m unenlightened like that. [/sarcasm]
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jmireles reply on August 6th, 2012 12:39 pm:
Shall I thump my chest like a gorilla while doing so?
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Cheryl reply on August 6th, 2012 5:07 pm:
By all means!
May 17th, 2012 at 1:54 am
And this is exactly why I work so hard to not associate myself with the feminist movement. So long as you’re polite, I’ll be polite to you. If it had been me you’d held the door open for, I’d have thank you!
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Cheryl reply on August 3rd, 2012 10:27 pm:
The feminist movement has gotten a bad name because of birks like that woman. I, and many others, who identify as feminists aren’t so cranio-rectally inverted that we mistake a man being polite for sexism. I choose to identify as a feminist because that’s what I am. I stand as evidence that the stereotypes are wrong and present a more reasonable, accurate face of what/who a feminist truly is.
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June 15th, 2012 at 5:40 pm
found you from TV Without Pity, to GoT to Skippy’s List…
and wtf ever happened to “Thank You”
I hate people sometimes. If you want to come hold a door that I need to go through I’d be happy to show appreciation and say thanks!
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June 19th, 2012 at 6:19 am
I had a similar thing a few years ago. I’d just finished building a barn door for a theater set and had to mount it. Now keep in mind, I’m not a theater guy, I was just helping out, so the door was built to be a real door (it was HEAVY). So I said I needed four guys to help me hold the door up while I secured it. Not two seconds after I’m done I get called on the mat as a sexist because I said I needed four “guys”. Keep in mind, I’m being ranted at by a young woman who barely makes five foot tall and probably weighs 90lbs soaking wet. I explained that I needed four bodies capable of holding a door of several hundred pounds, and while my friend Jackie could have helped (six foot farmgirl), she was not present and I seriously doubted the petite little gal in front of me had the raw strength required to do the job saftly. No dice, she and all her theater friends thought I was a conservative sexist racist jackass the rest of the job.
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August 3rd, 2012 at 10:10 pm
GAH! Women who assume every guy has sexist/misogynistic motivations annoy the crap out of me. A man holding a door for a woman is NOT inherently sexist, it’s polite and a sign the guy has manners. Keep holding doors for women. Most of us don’t have a stick up our ass and we’ll just say, “Thank you”.
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August 9th, 2012 at 9:48 am
Some years ago, I was working in a mall. While I was leaving one day, I noticed someone two steps behind me, so instead of letting the door slam in their face, I held it. She cussed me out similarly to Skippy’s experience. My reply was something to the effect of “First person to the door holds it for the next, regardless of age, gender, and ethnicity (multiple expamples involving my mother, grandmother, boss, and giant weightlifter friends holding the door, or having the door held on their behalf), but if you want, I can make an exception JUST FOR YOU, and memorise your face so that I can slam doors in it in the future.” The best part was when the little grandmotherly lady behind her asked to stop blocking the exit, and loudly declared that she appreciated my holding the door, thank you young man. B**** was speechless.
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